My Process, Your Process
My process is not your process and your process is not my process.
Watch me as I discuss my March blog.
We are all different. The way we look, the way we talk, the way we dress, our personalities…all different. Now, we may have similar likes or share some of the same qualities and have things in common, but bottom line, we’re different.
So, I get a little confused when someone tells me I’m bossy, I’m doing too much, or asks me, why do you talk like that, why do you act like that, why do I do the things that I do. It’s because I’m me. I can say the same things to them or ask them the same questions. It’s our differences. We’re different, therefore we do things differently from one another. That doesn’t mean someone is better than the other, it just simply means that we’re different.
I’ve been told I have a strong personality and as mentioned before that I’m “bossy”. I used to apologize for that, but recently in life I’ve learned that I will no longer apologize for who I am. I’m not bossy, I just know what needs to get done. I have strong leadership qualities and I embrace that. It’s not my business that how I choose to do things may intimidate someone. I get things done and I know that. I think that one of my strong qualities is being an organized person. Now sometimes when I’m in “planner mode” I tend to be very direct; and prior to my “directness” I will say to anyone who’s around me with a full disclaimer that, “I’m going into planner mode and I apologize up front if I’m direct, but we need to get this done”. I’m going to let you ponder on that a bit, because I’m sure there’s some mixed emotions going on about what I just said.
Please know that I do my very best to remain pleasant and approachable at all times. Also, please understand that I have Type A personality. What is Type A personality? Well I’m glad you asked. According to WebMD, “Type A" refers to a pattern of behavior and personality associated with high achievement, competitiveness, and impatience, among other characteristics. In particular, the positive traits of a Type A personality include: Self-control. Motivation to achieve results.” So, with that said, I recognize when I’m being a bit of a controlling person and when I become impatient, which those are the traits I strive to work on doing better. I don’t feel that I’m competitive, if anything I try my best to be collaborative. But don’t we all have parts of our personalities that we should work on doing better? If you’re not sure of your personality type, you should do research or take personality tests…there’s tons of them.
I went a long way around to say, just because my process of doing things is not your process of doing things doesn’t mean my process is wrong and your process is right, or vice versa. It just means that our personalities are different and when we truly know what type of personalities we have, we can better understand ourselves as well as others. Where I know I’m weak in something, I have someone in my circle who’s strong. That’s what we all should strive to do. Know your strengths, know your weaknesses. Come together to collaborate and build. Work on what YOU feel you need to work on, and don’t apologize for being who you are. Instead, let’s embrace our personalities today and do better about being so quick to tell someone about themselves, as well as do an internal check of who you are and how you may be perceived.
I hope this has helped someone. As I always say “if I’ve touched one person, I’ve done my job”.
-Ms. Positivi-T
