Bye Negativity
ctrl + alt + delete negativity out of your life.
Watch me as I discuss my April blog.
Do you ever get tired of being around negative people? You know the ones who never have anything positive to say. The ones who are always complaining about everything. Nothing good comes out of their mouths. They have a negative mindset and probably don’t realize they’re negative because it’s their “norm”. Do you ever wonder “why are they so negative all the time”? It’s so hard to say due to all of us leading different lives, having different backgrounds or experiencing different journeys in life.
Today I hope I can shine some light on the issue of negativity. Let’s first start with the meaning. The Oxford Language Dictionary reads as; negativity is the expression of criticism of or pessimism about something. That meaning alone sounds depressing. Imagine living a life of constant criticism or “glass half empty” thoughts. That must be toxic on the mind and body. Negativity creates a space of self-doubt, dislike, envy and even hate. All these behaviors make a person unattractive, not necessarily in a physical way, but internally. Their entire mindset is not healthy for themselves or others.
How can we help someone with a negative mindset turn it around to a positive mindset? Well, I’m glad you asked. We can first start by not telling them they’re negative. Why? Because it will more than likely appear to be an attack. Remember, they are already “glass half empty” thinkers. Instead, find ways to add positive comments to the conversation. For example, if you’re having a conversation with someone and they begin to go down the “negativity trail”, wait for your turn to talk and then put a positive spin on it. Negative comment: “Every time I see Jane, she’s gained more weight”. Positive response: “I think she looks great, and all our bodies change over time. As long as she’s happy, I’m happy for her.” Do you see how the comment was negative, but the response was a positive spin? The response was not an attack, and the negative comment was addressed. If we approach negative comments with positive responses, the hope is that the person giving the negative comments will either stop or stop saying negative comments around you. Now if a person is constantly negative and you have attempted to respond in positive ways, but it’s not working; you are certainly allowed to stop being around the toxicity. The person may need more help than you’re qualified to give, and you don’t want to feel drained.
Let’s ctrl + alt + delete negativity from our lives. That may look different for each of us. Maybe we decide to not be around negative people in our daily lives because it is too much to handle mentally. Maybe we prepare our minds by praying and asking for guidance before having a conversation with a negative person. Maybe we just continue to spread the positivity as often as possible. It is a challenge to be positive all the time, we are human. However, we can do all in our power to choose to be in a good mood, and not allow negativity to ruin our day.
I hope this helps you and the negative person in your life.
- Ms. Positivi-T
